I can't recall a single cinematic scene in which a person with food allergies expresses their feelings of guilt about their allergies' negative impact on their loved ones' lives. Family, close friends, classmates, or co-workers may not be allowed to eat certain foods around them, or they may have to ask they are significant others to change an aspect of their diet so that intimate contact will not expose them to dangerous allergens. This is a crucial aspect of having food allergies that nobody discusses and of which the public (allergy-free individuals) may aa be aware.

Having a food allergy, and living safely with one, requires numerous special accommodations. It is hard for the allergic individual to feel bad for others or guilty when your allergy impacts their life.

The guilt of inconveniencing parents

Parents who have children with food allergies must make severe accommodations to ensure their children's safety. The parents need to get acquainted with safe ingredients vs. dangerous ones and change their entire family's diets to accommodate their children. This can cause children to feel very guilty about having food allergies, knowing that they have made their parents' lives more difficult.

Here are some tips for parents who have kids with food allergies:

As parents, it is essential not to let your children feel like they are an inconvenience. It is crucial to remind them that it's not a problem and that you love them!

Think of how your child would feel

My worst anaphylactic reaction to date occurred on the morning of a holiday! I felt a little bad about 'ruining' a special moment, but of course, I would have opted out of an allergic reaction altogether if it were up to me.

Additionally, I have felt guilty just about having a reaction. My mind automatically enters the 'should've, could've, would've' mode. It's important to reflect on each situation individually to see if there are any areas where you could change your management strategy to be more successful.


A boyfriend or girlfriend of someone with food allergies will have to make a few adjustments. While they can eat whatever they want while alone, they must be cautious before getting together.

Depending on the allergy situation, a boyfriend/girlfriend may need to shower, brush their teeth (and wash out their mouth), change their clothes, and make sure not to eat any allergens before the date.  You are also restricted as to where you go out. You have to make sure that you are going to a safe restaurant or are eating safe food.

People who have allergies know this and feel very guilty about the situation they are putting their partners in. As the partner, it is essential to remind your loved ones that you love them and that it's critical to keep them safe!


It is my kid who is the reason the teacher sent home that note in your beginning-of-the-school-year packet. The one that says, "Due to an allergy in the classroom, please do not send your child with any peanuts or tree nuts in their lunch. This includes peanut butter."

People think my kid should learn to deal with it because, hey, that's life, and the world doesn't revolve around them. They think I should teach him better and not rely on others to parent for me. They think it's not fair to their kid, who is normal. They believe that because they read some studies suggesting parents expose kids to peanuts earlier, my kid shouldn't avoid peanuts anyway. The child with allergies usually is aware of how others feel. They know what it is inconvenient for everyone, which adds to the level of guilt they feel.



Children who suffer from food allergies are aware that it is very inconvenient for those around them. They wish that they could change things, but they have no choice. It is crucial to think of it from their perspective and try to be sympathetic. Their lives are hard enough as it is, and they can use all the support they can get.