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By the time a couple is in their 60’s, they have a set way of living and managing their lives. Change is hard, and opinions are unappreciated. Many couples with one spouse who has a food allergy live harmoniously with the allergen in the home. The partner without the food allergy most likely has a system set up to enjoy the products without endangering their partner, whether this includes only using paper wear when eating, washing their hands extra carefully, or brushing their teeth after eating the allergen. If they have received guidance from their allergist- and it works for them- great! No harm, no foul. But what happens when the medical condition of the spouse with food allergies changes? What steps should be taken when dealing with a disease with potential memory loss and cognitive function?
When 2 people are functioning at their optimum, it is considered relatively safe to have an allergen present in the house when a spouse has a food allergy. However, a diagnosis of a disease that affects memory changes everything. What if the spouse forgets about their food allergy and accidentally consumes their allergen? What if they are home alone when this happens? Will they have the ability to recognize the symptoms of their own reaction? Can they seek help quickly and effectively?
In the same way, a couple makes preparations for the future when a spouse has been diagnosed with either Alzheimer’s, dementia, or another condition that affects a person’s memory- careful consideration should be taken when creating a food allergy plan for the future of someone who will experience increasing memory loss and confusion. It is important to understand that conditions like these deteriorate with no prior warning. There are no alarm bells that go off when the patient’s symptoms worsen. A person can be stable for a while and then experience a sudden decline. Therefore, consider creating a living environment that protects the spouse in the event of memory deterioration.
The primary doctor must be included in both the preparation of the plan and its implementation. You may decide to implement the plan in stages, but this requires close medical supervision. This process can be complicated for the other spouse dealing with a beloved partner with a recent medical diagnosis and a life change simultaneously. These changes are important, but discussions and decisions should be made delicately.
During our recent visit to Israel, we really struggled to find food for our son who has anaphylactic level allergies to egg and sesame. We approached both restaurants and hotels and were told they were unable or unwilling to take responsibility for preparing his food.
After learning about Dr. Eliana on-line, we contacted her in the hopes that she could provide a ‘normal’ restaurant experience for our family.
Both she and Shani were meticulous in their preparations with the restaurants to ensure that our son had a wonderful and safe experience.
We truly appreciate their efforts to take care of our son, and to provide us with a lovely vacation experience.
T.M., Chicago, USA
We want to thank you from the bottom of our hearts for the amazing gift you have given us over this Pesach- the gift of having you with us!!!!
We have NEVER felt more comfortable, calm, and at ease than we did these past 10 days. Your warmth, professionalism, kindness, and care shown through in all that you did.
My children are so grateful that they were able to be with you this Pesach. You made sure that they were so well looked after and they felt so at ease and comfortable with you! You were so amazing and approachable to them! And they LOVED all the food you so amazingly prepared (supervised allergy-free food preparation, managed menus) for them!
It’s very difficult for us to trust people when it comes to our kids and allergies. You magically were able to take away ALL of our anxieties, and nervousness (and we don’t give that away so easily!!)
We can never fully thank you enough. We truly feel that you instantly became part of our family and we look forward to G-d willing being able to be with you and plan amazing trips with you many many many more times!!!!
Thank you and may Hashem bless you for the work you do. My son Jacob said your allergy card has been very helpful. I am so grateful- beyond words.
L.R., NY, NY
Thank you for delivering our allergy free baked goods to our hotel. We just tasted the focaccia and it was delicious!
All the best,
S.C., New Jersey
We can't thank you enough for assembling this top-notch team of specialists to work with our daughter while she is in Israel.
T.G., Philadelphia, PA
"Food Allergy Concierge assisted us with a very helpful, detailed customized allergy card in Hebrew. The Allergy card was extremely helpful for multiple allergies and allowed us to eat safely in several eateries and hotels. Highly recommended.”
G.A. Illinois USA
My family ordered a week's worth of food from Food Allergy Concierge during the most recent lockdown. Having the food on hand, and knowing that it was safe for everyone in the family to eat, helped turn the lockdown into a stay-cation! We were still able to take a break from cooking and worrying, and we look forward to using FAC's services again in the future.