Dating can be a worrying time for anyone, especially those who have food allergies. Whether you are the one with a food allergy or the one dating someone with a food allergy, it may be a difficult but necessary discussion to have.
When you finally decided to get over your fear and go on a date with your "crush," whom you have liked for so long, you suddenly think of a problem: how will I deal with my food allergies during the date?
We know all this is very scary but don't worry, we are here to give you advice and to help you feel normal.
Close touching and Intimacy
You remember what your mom always told you; kissing someone who has just eaten a food to which you are allergic can trigger a reaction. Why? Quite simply because the allergenic proteins in the food eaten remain in the saliva for a few hours. The partner who is not allergic may rinse their mouth, brush their teeth, or chewing gum after eating, but this will not be enough to eliminate the risk of a reaction.
Only one method seems effective to avoid contamination when the partner has consumed the prohibited food: wait several hours before approaching. Another solution is that your partner avoids eating the allergen a couple of hours before he meets you. And for people who don't want to take any risks, there is a radical solution; completely remove the food in question from your partner's diet.
First of all, you might not have to worry about this because most people don't get physical on the first few dates.
However, you will have to take advantage of these first dates, to talk about your food allergies. But take it easy we advise you to talk about your allergies lightly. For example, you can tell a funny anecdote that happened to you because of your allergies.
Have an open discussion about your allergies
Once your date will know about your allergies and knows about the severity of an allergic reaction, he would decide whether or not to continue dating. It is important to discuss how the allergies affect your relationship (maybe not on the first date). All physical intimacy, including hugging and kissing, needs to be met with caution because of your food allergies. This should be made clear to your date!
As you can see, it is not so hard to live with food allergies. You just have to be vigilant and talk about your allergies in a cool, relaxed, and light way. Make people around you feel that allergies are part of your life but are not difficult to live with.
Quick tips on dating and food allergies
And if you need more tips or help, our Food allergy concierge is specialized in helping people with food allergies. We can assist you in choosing your restaurants to be sure no allergens will be on your plate. We are here to help you and give you advice 24/7.
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