Allergies have psychological repercussions on children. We will explain how to help your little one learn to cope with his illness and feel good about himself.
Some tips to help them cope better with their allergy
According to recent research, nearly 70% of parents find that allergies impact their children's quality of life. Frustration, isolation, fear, are some feelings that are from easy to bear. It must be said that watching your child suffer from an asthma attack can be difficult. But as Aurore Lamouroux-Delay, head of the Marseille Asthma School, points out: "Contrary to popular belief, children with allergies are not by nature more sensitive psychologically or more emotionally fragile than others. It is the fluctuating side of these chronic diseases, the alternation between times of crisis, unpredictable acute episodes, and times "like everyone else" that influences the self-image children to have of themselves. "
You must not dramatize, it is essential
Asthma attacks or allergic reactions are impressive, they can even sometimes be life-threatening to the child. Suddenly, there is a dramatization of the symptom. This feeling of not being in control, of always having to be on guard is distressing for children, and for parents, who live in fear. The consequence is a tendency to overprotect their little one. They are prevented from running, playing sports, going out because of the pollen, going to the birthdays of the friend with whom there is a cat, etc. This is precisely what should be avoided, as it may increase the feeling of being marginalized by his allergy."Parents of children with allergies tend to overprotect their child. This is precisely what should be avoided, so as not to increase their feeling of being different from others."
Allergy on the psychological side
How to protect and reassure without an alarm? That’s the challenge! While this is not to be dramatized, it is nevertheless important to make the child aware of what he is suffering from and to help him become familiar with his illness. To avoid anxiety, it is important to answer their questions, to talk about them without taboos. We can use books as support for discussions, we can invent stories to get the messages across. Therapeutic education begins with simple words. It is better to start from their expressions, ask them first to verbalize their symptoms and their emotions: "What is the matter? Does it hurt you somewhere? How is it when you are embarrassed? Then your explanations can come.
"Allergies are when our body gets angry. He does not accept something that you breathe, eats, touch. So he reacts more or less strongly: you have a very bad cold, asthma, pimples, redness. This is annoying because you have to look for the "allergen", which causes the allergy and fight it. Sometimes it is a bit long. Then we are desensitized and we heal. Otherwise, we must always pay attention to certain foods, and various products that we know can make us sick. It takes courage and strength of character, but our family and friends are there to help us. "
Empower the allergic child
From 2-3 years old, a toddler can learn to pay attention. Once the allergist has determined what to avoid, be firm: "You can't do that because it's dangerous! "And if he asks the question," Can I die if I eat this? ", Better not to evade, to tell him that it can happen, but that it is not systematic. The more the parents are informed and the more comfortable they are with the disease, the more the children are too. Having eczema, not eating the same thing as everyone else, can make them feel excluded. However, at this age, it is very important to be like everyone else. Parents have a job to encourage the child: "You are special, but you can play, eat, run with others! It is also important that he spontaneously discuss this with his peers. Asthma can be scary; eczema can be unappealing to see ... To help him cope with the reactions of rejection, he must explain that it is not contagious, that it is not because we touch him that we are going to catch his eczema. If the allergy is well understood, well-accepted, well-controlled, the child can cope well with his illness and enjoy his childhood in peace.
If you need more tips or help, our Food allergy concierge is specialized in helping people with food allergies. We can assist you and your child to overcome this hardship. We are here to help and give you advice 24/7.
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